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My year in recap… 2017

*swats dust* *coughs*

Oh hello everyone…
I know, I know. Forgive me! Love me again!
I have no excuses to be honest, I just kinda lost the blogging mojo and try my hardest, I couldn’t shake it off, so I was stuck with many drafts that just simply never made it to light. That happens sometimes, I’m sorry.
Hope you’re all doing well?

I am. I’ve had a wonderful year [comparatively to the last 3/4 years] and I’ve found myself feeling hopeful again that my life as I knew it isn’t over. Isn’t that wonderful?

So let’s catch up…. A lot happened this year. A LOT!

I started a new job. Yes.

I’ve been quite open even on here about my frustrations with job hunting and so when this year started by dropping this opportunity in my lap, I knew I was about to have a different type of year and it’s been great. Because I’m such an independent person, a huge part of my sense of self, esteem and self respect is tied to my ability to take care of myself and my loved ones and so not having a job for a long time impacted on my ability to assert that part of who I am and it affected my self esteem a lot. I hated needing help, the dependency and sometimes blatant disrespect that comes with it so much that every time I had to ask for help, it made me feel even smaller. This new job helped change that for me; it also opened so many doors to so many new experiences, travel, growth opportunities both professionally and personally, helped me make new friends and afforded me a whole new sense of self, esteem, respect and pride. There’s NOTHING quite like this feeling and it can only get better. I am so thankful for it that even if this is my only testimony for the year, I’ll be okay.

But it’s not! Because God is such a show off…. I love it!

I have a nephew!

See I’m not new to this aunty business, I have nieces but this is my first time at the nephew rodeo and it’s a whole different kind of feeling I tell you. No, this isn’t some battle of the sexes tirade; what I’m saying is, the experience is new to me as I’ve done nieces 4 times over. Baby Suur is the most precious, chunky, happy little human you’ll ever meet. Seriously, he’s such a happy baby, only cries when you’re wasting time with his food [he obviously doesn’t play with his food because he’s my blood ha]. And his hair…omg! Another thing he has in common with me is that he loooooooooooooooves his reflection chei! I make videos of him all the time and when I play them back to him, he gets super quiet watching them with such intensity like woah… boy we know you’re cute, relax.

He’s truly our precious gift and I always look at him and wonder how my dad would have been with him if he were still here with us. He has also unlocked my baby fever at an all-time high and now i’m thinking that perhaps… this time next year ehn..…just watch this space.
My baby girl Iveren is still a firecracker…. She makes my life [and my snapchat feed] so colorful and rich.

Such a spice! She’s spending the holidays with grandma and I miss her so much, it hurts.
Speaking of baby fever…. I think I’ve found his/her daddy too 😀
Yes. Your girl’s got love in my life and it’s such a wonderful feeling. This is the first time in my entire life I’ve felt this way and I’m not saying this about the love, I’ve loved before. I mean it’s the first time I’ve actively thought – “I could totally marry this guy even though I hate his guts and I want to murder him sometimes”. I mean, I count all the things I can’t stand about him and our relationship but then I think to myself “I still love him though” like woah! I’m whipped! I’m also not afraid to be vulnerable because regardless of how this plays out, he’s a kind/decent person and he will never be intentionally mean/wicked to me and that’s saying a lot.
In the past, I’ve dealt with men that were so cruel with me that I told myself that going forward, it’s – kindness/compassion before anything – and we’ve passed the test. I love this man, I want to marry him, I want to have his babies… and yes, I totally just typed all this here. It’s official.
Remember when I cut my hair last year? Well it’s been over a year already can you believe?! In that time, I’ve worn it natural low, sporty, curly, coloured, texturized.. you name it! Anyways, many months later and all the experiments passed, I’ve grown bored/tired and have promptly gone back to my trusty braids.

I don’t think I’ll ever actually actively grow out my hair like full again; the cut life is here to stay, so going forward; it’ll be me swapping between cuts/weaves/braids as my mood fits. But this Anita Baker/Toni Braxton inspired cut is definitely the winner and will become the go-to staple for when I cut it again.

The best self-care thing I did for myself this year was to develop and stick to an actual proper skincare regimen. I’ve always had some type of regimen going on especially when my acne flares were at an all-time high, but nothing quite like what I developed this year and I can honestly say I don’t know when last I had skin so supple smooth and flawless from head to toe. If you follow me on snapchat then you already see me do this every day, the whole works.
I feel like once you’ve hit the big 30, you just can’t get away with doing the bare minimum anymore with your skin; you just cant. I took mine seriously this year and it shows. My current regimen is made up of a lot from The Ordinary, the Tea-tree range from The Bodyshop and a Clarisonic [thank you Achike]

I have shared extensively about these already on snapchat but I will take the time to do a post and share on here. People, if there is one thing you gift yourself this year and going forward, let it be a skincare regimen. You’ll be glad you did.

So basically, this year…. I have a job, my family is growing, I have love in my life, my hair is on fleek, my skin is popping and i’m happy! I win.. let’s go home. Bloop!
On a more sober note though, this year also had its fair share of sad moments and heartbreaks. I had a major health scare and had to take time off work to get the help I needed and to take care of myself. I’m okay now, thank God. Just praying that this is the last time I ever have that experience, it was a very scary experience. Not fun.

Then….. Justin died.

My Rookiee bum bum! My daddy! My English professor!
This is hands down the most painful thing I experienced this year. Justin and his lawyer hat helped go through my contract for my new job and took me out to dinner to celebrate. I cannot even begin to explain who he was to me and what we shared, words won’t be enough. I cried, and cried and cried. I still cry randomly even now when he crosses my mind and that happens quite often. Like a few weeks ago, at work I was cleaning out my desk and found his business card and I had to take a moment.
You broke all our hearts Justin; I can only hope that you know how much you meant to us and how much we love you. We will never forget you.
I did learn some new lessons this year and also renewed old lessons:
1. There’s nothing I did, i’m doing or will ever do to earn anything I have, it’s all God. Never my intellect, never my sabi sabi, never my nothing… all God. There’s also nothing i’ve done, i’m doing or will ever do that’ll change what God has in store for me.

2. Things will always sort themselves out, eventually. This is related to the first lesson because many times, I have plotted, and thought, and arranged, and organized, and planned meticulously and still failed. All that planning and plotting can make us feel like our successes and wins were our doing, but they’re not. Sure, there’s a place for preparedness but the God factor is the most important factor. Knowing this also helps me take a step back to analyse all my past fails/wins, to see how easily I had nothing to do with it and to stop turning to God only after I’ve gone out on my own and failed. God doesn’t want to be my last resort, he wants to be my day one!

3. Never stop seeking self-improvement. Commitment to one’s self is a life long journey and there are no breaks. With timehop apps on social media these days, it’s so easy to see how different we reason/think and the difference only a few months/years can bring to our opinions and mindsets. Problematic mindsets and all that come with it need to go and the process of un-learning and re-learning is one you must never  get tired of; and its something to be proud of.

4. However, they say – “to sabi yourself no be curse” – which means, in our quest to be better, know better and do better, we must never lose ourselves. You are who you are and there’s nothing to apologise for. Not saying hold on to negative aspects about yourself under the guise of “this is who I am” but it’s a fine line between that and looking yourself in the mirror one day and not recognizing the person who’s reflection is staring back you.

5. 2017 stripped me of all sense of entitlement. I am solely responsible for myself and no one owes me anything! I set myself up all the time imagining all the different ways people are “supposed” to treat me or relate to me and of course I get disappointed when it doesn’t play out that way. This is the lesson that life is determined to teach me seeing as I’ve repeatedly faced it every turn every year and I’m still grappling with. Is this the year I finally learn it for good for real? We’ll see.

Let’s take a moment to talk about the wave of feminism/women rights issues viz-a-viz the stories of harassment and abuse that are awash the globe right now. It’s timely, it’s important, it’s necessary and there’s simply no place for silence or complacency on this matter anymore. We owe it to ourselves to fix the rot that has allowed and perpetrated the abuse of women in all spaces of society – work, home, family etc.
These conversations are necessary, no matter how inconvenient and uncomfortable they may be. I personally have taken up the coveted title of “angry/feisty/disrespectful” woman in my circles and I wear that badge proudly.
I am here to tell y’all that women will not be taking any shit anymore, NO SIR!

I think that the place to start so as to arrest the next generation’s foolery is to focus on raising good wholesome boy children who will grow up to become tomorrow’s men as much as we currently focus on the girl child. Institutionalized mindsets about what girls can/can’t do vs what boys can/can’t do NEED TO GO! Commit to raising responsible boys, decent boys, boys who respect women, who cook & clean, who are allowed to cry and experience a full range of different emotions etc. Do away with those toxic notions from the past that births entitled, crude, invalid boy-men… let’s start there.
Obviously it’s a lot more to it but I think this is a good place to start
Overall, I’ve had a very eventful year and I thank God for all the joys, the pain, the tears, the lessons and all the happiness. I look forward to an even more amazing 2018 and I pray same for you all. As far as resolutions go, I have zero resolutions for the New Year. The motto for 2018 is – “NA SO WE SEE AM”.
Enough with the roundabout motions that lead nowhere! I shall no longer be a slave to those.

Even when I’m not actively blogging, you can still keep up with me on these social media platforms:

Twitter: @GBTheBlog

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Snapchat: @Gorgeousbskin

I want to hear all about your year too so please share in the comments below

Happy holidays!




Anniverssary, Birthday, Family, Fun, Happy,, Holiday, Marriage, May, Weddings

Let’s Play Catch Up, Shall we?

Let me tell you guys the shameful thing that just happened ~ while trying to log on here just now, I forgot my login details… TWICE! *hangs head* It’s been that long…

For the better part of March, all of April and up until yesterday, I have not had ONE day of doing nothing/rest; and I’m only just finding out[much to my disappointment] that I simply cannot do it all. I’m no superwoman, something had to give and sadly the blog was part of the collateral damage.

I’ve been swamped! Proper swamped. Still… I apologise.

Let me get y’all up to speed on the whirlwind that is sometimes my life. See, I meant to share all these as separate posts and that’s exactly why I ended up in this predicament as there was never time and it just kept piling so let me just sparsely share for now, pending when I can be more detailed.

Let’s get to it.


One of my closest [and oldest] friends was getting married and so I [together with her sister] planned and threw her a surprise bridal shower.

No big deal right? Wrong!

First off, I’ve never thrown anyone a shower before so I was the rookiest of all rookies which basically meant, tons of higi haga crinkum crankum gbish gbish gbo gba! Ha ha. But in the end, we pulled it all off, my friend was somewhat surprised [pesky colleague ratted us out].

It was a simple shower, we rented out a suite at Protea and basically had a girlie evening/slumber pyjama party.

We had booze.. of course! I also made my world famous punch!

We had cake and so much food [which I forgot to take pictures of]

We all dressed up in gloves and fascinators like some fancy sophisticated women as we danced, ate and laughed into the night


 We spent the next day poolside, played water games, feasted on some leftovers and generally unwinded.

 It was perfect! She loved it so much, she shed a few happy tears and all was well with the world.


 It was my friend Boki’s birthday and another friend of hers threw her a lovely house party which I was invited to. It was so much fun. I don’t know what it is *cough*old age*cough* but I find that I’d much rather be at a house party these days than out clubbing or a full on dressy-outty type shindig.

Kisses for the birthday girl

 This is definitely top 3 of my favourite photos of us Boks.

If you follow me on snapchat [which I hope you do], I bet you got more than an eyeful of what can happen when Boki and I and the usual suspects get together in one space. Mayhem! Lol.

It was a lovely evening. Happy Birthday Again Boks.



My only brother got traditionally married.

Mr & Mrs Ali Martin Tordue

 As we arrived our in-laws’ village, this banner greeted us at the main road….. I immediately got emotional. It was surreal…..

First Outfit

Our beautiful bride with her maidens

When she found her husband……

When they were tasked with feeding each other… symbolizing their taking care of one another.

Our beautiful bride… Gorgeous smile

My mum simply couldn’t contain herself… She danced and danced and danced and danced all day until night came and when we moved back to our Makurdi home and she was STILL dancing #TrueStory

Mummy and Me

As for me ~ Sister of the Groom ~ I don’t think I need to reiterate how seriously I took my role, by first of all ensuring that I looked the part!

You really should be following my social media pages [snapchat especially] because trust and believe that EVERY angle of this Slayage was very well documented for all to enjoy. Y’all already know I’m vain as hell. Ha ha

Wishing my brother and his new bride the very best of married life. I love you both dearly.


Wednesday, 4th May….. It was my birthday.

If you know me, you know that I love to make a big deal of my birthdays and I start counting down to it from weeks preceding – as evidenced here and here and here from last year.

However, something bigger overtook my day this year…. My friend, who’s bridal shower I talked about up there was finally taking the traditional plunge. ON MY BIRTHDAY. What joy!


It was such a beautiful day.


If I’m being totally honest, I loved that it took the pressure off me and I was so busy running around that I didn’t have time to poke pins in voodoo dolls of anyone who didn’t send me a wish. It’s usually that serious. Ha ha. However, by the time I got to settle down and catch up, the outpouring of best wishes was truly overwhelming. Thank you for every tweet, facebook post, text, call, raven post etc. I appreciate it, may God bless you all.

I couldn’t have asked for a better way to have spent my birthday.


Friday, 6th May [My mum’s birthday]….. she did it in the eyes of God.

So beautiful


Per usual….. I turned up in my Sunday-best [more like Friday-best, but you get me].

I’ve never felt more beautiful in nude makeup


My sister and I


Happy married life to my dear friend Jennifer and her husband Peter. May God bless your new home.

So you see, I’ve had a rather hectic few weeks/month with all the running around and planning, so I hope you forgive me for being awol for so long. I shall do better.

It’s a promise!

If you read all the way to this point, you’re the real MVP and I thank you.

PS: Every single event mentioned in this post has been condensed to the barest but if you were following my social media pages, snapchat especially, you’d have seen that I captured everything in minute detail and I’ve been told it was enjoyable and fun to follow/watch so get on board okay. Besides, sometimes, even when i’m very quiet on here, my social media pages be popping! So do not carry last ehn?!

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Twitter: @GBTheBlog

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Have a nice week.

Besos xx



Birthday, Family, Happy,, Holiday


My baby girl turned one last Thursday and it was a paaaaaartaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyy!!!!!


I honestly can’t believe it’s been a year already since my niece was born; time does fly indeed! I still remember that day like it was yesterday – Wednesday, 2nd july 2014 – my sister [her mom] had been in labour for 17 hours and it was such a nerve-racking experience for all of us – the waiting, the tears, the drama – phew! She came at about 5.30pm on a Wednesday but I couldn’t make it to see them until Friday because of work [2 extra long days of waiting]. When I saw my niece, it was love at first sight; this precious rosy cheeked mini-human was about to change all our lives forever and it’s truly been a joy ride ever since. I love my niece! So much! I love her like she is mine and I’m totally obsessed with those cheeks.  She’s a happy, bubbly, cheerful and friendly child and it’s never a dull moment with her; even with my mother’s epic shade, I’ll never not be obsessed.

As expected, I flooded my Instagram TL with these bajillion collages that basically said – I have so many pictures of my niece, i’m spoilt for choice, bear with me – my followers had no choice but to deal. I’m an obsessed aunty.


Even though the party was fixed for Saturday, I headed off to Makurdi on Thursday [of the actual birthday] to spend the day with the birthday girl. We spent it running around the house, eating pounded yam and driving around running errands with Grandma [my mum].

Cute Story: Immediately she sees a camera, she starts saying “cheeeeeeeeeese”….


Birthday Girl got a monster police truck and her face says it all


Saturday rolled around and it was so much fun with the entire family [extended inclusive]. There was so much food, laughs, partying, drinks, music, face paints, games, bouncy castles, hoops etc.

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With Mummy & daddy [and her monster cake]


My other babies – Ngohide, Secivir and Baby Afa – were on cousin support duty


Three Generations – Grandma, Mummy and birthday girl.

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The pictures above are my favourite of the entire bunch because they captures their different personalities so well. Ngohide and Iveren are totally in the zone and having a moment while Secivir is in the corner giving ZERO fucks! Just look at her face! Lmao.


Outfit change to make room for the mayhem     

My baby girl…. I keep asking for kisses #ObsessedMuch #LifeInTechnicolour

I took these last night after bedtime shower… how precious! #CurrentFaves


We had such a lovely time, family bonding and everything nice. Happy birthday baby girl, may God bless and keep you happy always. Aunty loves you xx.


When I’m in Benue, I never pass up on the opportunity to get those mean #BenueBraids done and this trip wasn’t any different…. I’m feeling myself!!!


Also, I just discovered Ed Sheeran’s cover of O.T Genasis’s – I’m in love with the coco – and its been on repeat ever since. Its so unexpected and totally eargasmic. The Internet won the day I discovered this! Get you a piece if you’ve been carrying last like I’ve been 😀

IMG_7092.JPG How’s everyone doing? Totally dodging y’all’s rotten tomatoes & shoes for being away for so long.

Kisses xx



Happy,, Music, Randomness, Travel

My music and me 

 Music is life!!!

Image result for music quotesI’m a huge lover of music. I play music when I’m just chilling at home, when I’m having a bad day, when I’m happy, when I’m in the bath/loo, when I’m in a car…every place! Every day! My music reflects/affects my mood and I honestly can’t imagine a world without music. It’ll be Drab and Gray and Sad and nobody will be able to cope. I want no parts. Music is so powerful that you don’t need to understand the language/words to be moved – remember Julia Robert’s first time at the opera in Pretty Woman? Powerful.

I believe that a person’s taste in music says a lot about them and I’ve definitely bonded with/unplugged from people on account of music. Once, I fell for a boy because [amongst other things], he used to make me these amazing sleep playlists every week and he introduced me to music that I would never have found by myself; special place in my heart.  Infact, now that I think of it, boys have been using music to toast for a while, I remember this boy in secondary school who would make me mix –tapes , yea, actual CASSETTE TAPES

I did tell you guys last week that I’ve been in a bit of a funk and while I’m not exactly peaches and rainbows yet, I am a lot better now than I was when I wrote that post, thank God. During this period, I’ve not been sleeping well; infact, my sleep pattern is so rubbish that I feel sorry for myself when I’ll need to recalibrate. Like yesterday [today actually], I went to bed at about  4:40am and it’s been this way for a while now. Sigh.

Anyways, since I couldn’t sleep, I decided to play music. I didn’t make a playlist; I just let my player do its thing randomly. As expected, I have all kinds of music/genres in my library, ALL KINDS and each one represents a vivid memory in my mind. It occurred to me some time ago that with every song I’ve ever liked, I have a distinct memory attached to it. I can tell you exactly where I was/what I was doing/who I was with etc when I first heard it or at least, when it first registered in my mind that I liked it. Every single one has a backstory. Yup! So I decided to make it even more fun by playing a little game – for every song that came on, I’d write about the memory I associate to the song. Here goes….

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I Miss You [Beyonce]  – First time I heard this song, I was visiting my friend Shola and we were just gisting in her room when it came on on her ipod dock. Coincidentally, I was going through a breakup at the time and so it got me in my feelings so much that I cried like somebody beat me; and because I enjoy torturing myself, I went and downloaded it immediately. I came back to Abuja armed with the perfect heartbreak song; I’d sit by myself everyday, play it on repeat and cry myself to sleep for like 6 months ha ha… It’s still one of my favourite Beyonce songs and I still get emotional when I listen to it.

You Know I’m No Good [Amy Winehouse] – This song takes me right back to the balcony of my undergraduate apartment on the 7th floor of Desa Palma, Malaysia. It was my first taste at actual freedom in my very own apartment all by myself. LISTEN…. YOU COULDN’T TELL ME NOTHING!! I’d play Amy on ignorant levels and dare my neighbours to knock on my door with complaints. I’d stand on the balcony, drink in hand, people watching and feeling like THIS IS THE LIFE! Good times! It was on one of those balcony days that I watched as the boy I liked who had just stood me up earlier for dinner came to drop off another girl while ignoring my calls – [cue Me and Mr. Jones: what kind of fuckery are you?] I’m sad she died, her death felt for me like it was someone I knew personally and when you actually think about it, how much more personal does it get than Amy’s music?

How To Save A Life [The Fray] – One phrase: Greys Anatomy! Season 2 : Izzie & Denny’s love story, Denny surviving surgery..ah! My heart was so tight; I thought I’d pass out. Since then, the song has been featured twice more on the show in Season 7 and very recently, on the episode WHERE SHONDA RHIMES LOST HER DAMN MIND AND KILLED DEREK OFF THE SHOW.  Expectedly, since getting featured on Greys; the song reached quadruple platinum status [if that exists], beyond successful. It also became the theme song for season 3 of the show and the cast even recreated it. I always say how much of a great gift idea it is if someone gave me the entire compilation of the all the music ever played on Greys Anatomy from season 1 till date, awesome source for finding new music.  Oh and remember on Season 8 of American idol when the song was played after Danny Gokey’s audition for his wife who had just passed away from heart complications.  *sweaty eyes*

Chasing Pavements [Adele]

should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements, even if it leads no where?….”

I was on vacation cooped up in my hotel room, cosy in bed [BY MYSELF] and I turn on the TV and on comes the most striking British voice I’ve heard in a minute, I sat up immediately, logged on to youtube and began a journey into what has become an amazing love story with my baby girl Adele.  This chic just stands there, in a huge tent of a black dress, no gimmicks, no dancers, no flashing lights, no psychedelic discos, just a voice…. I dare you to watch the live performance of – Someone like you – at the Brits and not wipe your eyes. Such presence! Besides the amazing music she makes, I love how unapologetic she is about  herself and I love that she cusses and swears like a sailor and she cackles like no self-respecting lady should but it’s so adorable and real and it tickles.


She comes across as real and relatable and totally awesome, I wanna be besties with her. And that delicious British accent that comes through so clearly even in her music…..I especially love her because she took a bad situation and turned it into multiple millions of dollars, wiping out all awards while at it and giving the Ex a big fat middle finger! She wins for you, she wins for me, she wins for any girl who ever got her heart broken but only sat in a corner, ate ice-cream, cried and got fat[ter]. Ha ha.

Breathe [Blu Cantrell ft. Sean Paul] – OMG!!! Major throwback no?! First time I heard this song was from watching the video on Channel O … ancient of days 😀 Where is Blu Cantrell? Listen! I rocked this song well, I’d be singing aloud like…

“you say you love me, say you love me but you’re never there for me….Then comes the drama some other girl is claiming she’s going out with you… All we do is make up, then break up… When love hurts, it won’t work….”

You can tell I’ve always been a lover girl sha ha ha. Everything was so shiny in that video. I’m glad the fashunz has changed since then.

How’s A Man Supposed To Change [Blue] – This entire album is still one of my faves. I got the CD off of a friend and played it so much that by the time I managed to return it, she refused to collect it because it had over scratched and I had to buy her a new one. It was in this song I found out that some superstitious oyibo people believe that if you break a mirror, you’d be cursed with seven years of badluck; just as the ones that believe that if you don’t make eye contact while clinking glasses during a toast, you’d be cursed with 7 years of bad sex. Better don’t take the chance. LOL

Crossroads [Bone Thugs N Harmony]

                                      “and we pray and we pray and we pray…everyday everyday everyday everyday                                                                                           See you tha crossroads so you won’t be lonely”

OMG! BCC Mkar Estate, Gboko. The video for this song gave me nightmares for months. And it didn’t help that my family friend who was a super fan and introduced me to it died shortly after. Horror. Nowadays, when I’m badly in need of Ogbono soup raps, I make do with Twista; if for nothing, I’m sure that I won’t have any nightmares.

Music and Me [Nate Dogg] – I love this man. I love this song. I don’t know what else to say. RIP.

I Want You [Ceelo Green] –  I was aboard an Emirates flight enroute England when I first heard this song. I pretty much spent the rest of the flight with it on repeat and 5 years later, it’s still my song. Let me just say clearly that nothing about Ceelo Green’s physical looks inspires any type of pink dreams for me but on account of the lyrics of this song, I wished he was my lover and had written this song for me. This song is an ode from a man who’s tired of the party scene/fast life and ready to dedicate his life to this …. Ladies, has a man ever thanked the Lord for you?

                                                 “Ooooh …one rarely finds a lady, who happens to be three times the lady…                                                                           God is good, he took his time when he designed you baby, that’s why I want you….                                                                            And, oh I’ll even quit my job, loving you, I’ll make it my job…                                                                                                            Thank you Lord, thank you Lord, this is it my God!”

Don’t Turn The Lights On [Chromeo] – I found Chromeo sometime in 2011 from the comments section of Miafarradaily’s blog and I haven’t looked back since. I recently found a song they did with Solange called  -Lost On My Way Home – Imagine the epicness. Just go to YouTube and watch every Chromeo song you can find. You’re welcome.

Shorty Got Her Eyes On Me [Donnell Jones] – My uncle Dennis. He loves this song so much and transferred the love to me, never mind that the lyrics were far too colorful for my teenage self to be singing them so confidently. What is it about some of these RnB artists that somehow makes their raunchy lyrics sound like Sunday school hymns? He needs to drop something new though, with his 3 hits having ass.

Heaven [Emeli Sande] – Buchanan Station, Glasgow 2012. I was visiting friends and while waiting to be picked, this song came on. Instant hit! I bought the album off Itunes as soon after; it’s one of the few albums I’ve actually ever purchased off Itunes.  Nowadays I remember her as one of my Ex’s favourite artist, ergo, not so fun.

Hurricane [Eric Benet] – It was many years ago, on a cold windy night. I was listening to Nike Coker’s show on Coolfm [via my Nokia 3230]. It was a request show and someone called in to request this song and that was it. I called in and re-requested for it but they said they couldn’t play it twice in such short interval and since there was no spotify/easy internet then,I was stuck. But once I got access, I downloaded it immediately. It’s such a sad yet hopeful song, he’d written it about the period of his sex addiction and resulting divorce from Halle Berry. I love this song and the message it captures – sometimes things will get crazy chaotic before they become calm and that very calm is  embedded in the chaos.

                                       “A hurricane, a hurricane is sometimes the only way to wash away the pain….                                                                    A hurricane, a hurricane is sometimes the only thing that brings you back again”

AS [George Micheal ft. Mary J. Blige]

“As around the sun the earth knows she’s revolving… And the rosebuds know to bloom in early May.. Just as hate knows love’s a cure, you can rest your mind assured, that i’ll be loving you always….”

How comforting! It reminds me of my dad.

Daddy’s Home [Usher] – I want a husband just so I can play this song [from our surround sound home system] when I see his car pull up the driveway. He’ll get into the house and I’ll be standing by the bedroom door like – hey daddy – muahahhahahahaa. SideBar: Why is Usher so hot?

Magician [Ice Prince ft Gyptian] – I LOVE THIS SONG!! It was a cold night in liverpool; I was sitting in my room listening to Gidilounge and waiting for my heater to get toasty . No fucks were given on this track in terms of being politically correct – you drop bomb like a Pakistan – and that’s exactly why it rocks. Still one of my faves from Ice Prince.

A Long Walk [Jill Scott] – I found this song after seeing the video for – Getting In The Way – on Channel O; I figured whoever she is, there’s definitely more where that came from. And I was right. Jill Scott is a whoooooooooooooooooooooole lotta woman and I’m here for it all.

Stutter [Joe ft. Mystikal] – If you know me, you know I love Mystikal. I mean, what’s not to love about a rapper who cares about my wellbeing?  – “shake your ass, but watch yourself” – why thank you! I’ll be careful. I still remember the orange car on the dusty lone road and Mystikal losing his mind, I was entertained.

The High Road [Joss Stone] – One my all-time favourite singers. Her voice is sonorous and rich and doesn’t sound like its coming out of a white chic at all. She’s amazing. I have actual original copies of Joss Stone CDs, what does that tell you? I heard this song for the first time at an apple store in Liverpool One where I’d gone to replace my ipad screen. I struck up conversation with one of the store guys, a wide eyed Italian boy all the time wowing about how I couldn’t believe there was a Joss Stone song I didn’t know…being all cute. He took my number and proceeded to text me asking where I lived and whether he could stop by mine after his shift for drinks? I’m like sure we can do drinks but definitely not in my house; So damn forward. He never texted me again.  Black or white, men are men – looking to score with the most minimal effort. FOH!

Tired [Kelly Price] – In the land of hurt/heartbroken/angry music, Kelly Price is the Mayor. She makes great angry music but on this song, she’s not angry, she’s tired and you can actually feel her tiredness come through clearly. I found this song after a breakup. Yea yea… what’s new?   

Battle Scars [Lupe Fiasco ft. Guy Sabastian] – It’s almost 2am, I’m in my bed but obviously not asleep when my friend Hauwa buzzes me thus – have you heard this song? – I go no and she replies – look for it. And I did. And henceforth, I take music recommendations from Hauwa very seriously. It’s on my workout playlist, I kick ass to it many times a week. 

One [U2 ft Mary J. Blige] – Miss Mary finished work on this song okay? She took the bridge and chewed it and spat it out and dared anybody to come have a go and nobody did. What?!!!! I heard it for the first time on a documentary about U2 and frankly I don’t understand why because they should be ashamed to say this song is theirs, Mary owned it. 

By Your Side [Sade] – This song takes me back to Makurdi, those NTA color bars and connecting raindrops on window louvers;  which is weird because it’s not this actual song that NTA used to play, it was –Sweetest Taboo – but it just tells you how the brain makes these associations and connections. Sade is bae with her huge opon. Bae.

Step by Step [Whitney Houston] – I don’t know if I have a favourite Whitney song, but if I do then this one is the permanent second. I want to say it my fave but…. The video is so playful and happy and upbeat and Whitney’s shoulder dance is the best okay? Its one of those songs I grew up hearing around the house a lot, both my parents are huge Whitney fans and they passed it down to me. I accept.

Novacane [Frank Ocean] – Hmmmmnnn.…. A cute boy, ridiculous flirting, a train ride to Manchester, many drinks and…. plays till fade.

At this point, my vision started getting blurry so I had to stop…. And finally get that sleep.

What do you think about my music?


Birthday, Happy,, Life, Lifestyle, May

Happy Birthday To Meeeeeee

It’s my birthdaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy whoop whoop    

I love birthdays. I love forward to mine and I start counting down from like a month, striking off everyday with excitement like I am 5 and a half. I cannot even begin to understand those people who forget their birthdays. Like how is that even possible? Ha!

This year, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and my life is great! I thank God for all my blessings and I take none for granted.

Look at my google page today? It says “Happy birthday S” with tons of cake. How cute!


And you know damn well I shall use an ATM today just so I can see my name and the accompanying birthday wishes flash on the screen. Ha ha.. xx

Happy birthday to all the people who share this special day with me and may God bless us all.

Birthday love xx