Fun

Wedding glam [2] – Red Lips Edition

How does one go from attending zero weddings in an entire year to attending 2 [back to back] in one month?

[Answer: Let’s ask my friends Boki & Achike]

Anyways, following this wedding glam from the other Saturday, another Saturday rolled by and your’s truly was invited…. again! Perhaps I am starting to secretly love weddings. Horror!

So what do you do when you want some quick glam but have no time to sit and spruce it up for hours? Red lips! You can never go wrong with one and that’s exactly what I did. 

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 photo-8.jpeg TIJT9654[1]ICNN9238[1] And I just kept on snapping… a million selfies, a million filters…..

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Boks of life! #RedLipGang

Achike & his 1000 watt smile

Oh and I snapped the entire glam process so if you aren’t following me on snapchat yet…… why ever not?  

SnapChat ID – gorgeousbskin

This could be a postcard uno *winks*

        Yes I am vain and I know it. Sorry, not sorry.

My friend Dooshima suggested I start a #GetReadyWithS type posts and I’m loving the idea so look out for that. Soon-ish.

Valentine’s is exactly 7 days from today; what y’all doing?

  I hope y’all have an amazing week & weekend.

PS: This post is dedicated to the loving memory of a dear mother/wife/friend/colleague and all round amazing person – Prof. Mrs. Regina O. Ode; the original red lip rocker. May your vivacious soul rest with the Lord, Amen.  

Cheers.

Besos xx

S.

 


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musings

What’s your Love language 

Sometimes I have a hard time falling asleep at night and when that happens, my mind just drifts all over the place [it tends to do that at odd hours]. I started reading old whatsapp conversations and one in particular got me thinking about how differently each of us receives & acknowledges the gestures of love/affection directed at us and where the disconnect that tends to create drama usually sets in. So I hit my twitter with a little dose of deep…. Question:

I got some pretty interesting responses [see below for a few].

 

  

All very interesting, right?

Which leads me to this thing about love languages; which I’m sure you’ve heard/read about. But if you haven’t already –  according to Gary D. Chapman in his acclaimed book – The Five Love Languages –  there are 5 love languages.According to Gary, every single one of us understands one [or a combination] but we all ultimately tend to gravitate more towards one.  [You can read more about it here www.5lovelanguages.com]. There’s even a test on there to help you determine your own love language. PS: Mine is predominantly – Acts of Service [I think it’s the only one that encompasses little bits of all the other languages] & Receiving gifts [not to be mistaken for materialism]

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Usually, when love languages are discussed, they are discussed from the POV of the receiver, i.e. the person who is positioned at the receiving end of the gestures that make up said language. So for e.g. because I prefer – Acts of Service – I expect that my loved ones or anyone looking to catch my attention in a love thing should show me how much via practical helpful gestures. It means that someone can tell me how much they love me day & night, even until hell freezes over but if those beautiful grandiose words aren’t accompanied by actual gestures that make my everyday day-to-day life easier, then we are both wasting each other’s time really.IMG_1473It then follows that I also tend to show my love to the people I love in the same way by trying my best to ease their day-to-day life – perhaps you need laundry dropped off and I have time – I will, perhaps I noticed your nepa units are running out and you’re out of town – I’ll top up so the stuff in your refrigerator don’t get to ruins, perhaps you’re out of town and the house got dusty – I’ll send someone to clean for you so you get back to a clean home feeling less overwhelmed. Sister needs new bras and I’m ordering mine – I’ll add hers, brother had a long day – I’ll leave a home cooked meal etc.  I know a friend of mine who said the most romantic thing anyone ever did for her for valentine’s was to replace the worn out tyres on her car that needed immediate attention. Very Practical.

However, I feel like we forget to think about this from the POV of the person on the giving end of the equation.  They have a love language too and what if theirs doesn’t match yours? For e.g. a person whose love language is – Physical Touch – expects tons of PDA from their partner but what if said partner is not into PDA? But they always send gifts [a language] and tell you how much they love you [affirmation]? In this scenario, they’re showing love in the way they know & understand it but is it connecting? When our loved ones speak a different love language, it may come across as though they aren’t doing enough but is that really true? And is it to fair to them that we are receiving it wrong?

CONTEXT:

I sometimes fight with my brother when I feel he’s just not pulling his weight when I need him to which can make me feel like he doesn’t know me at all. However, I have overheard my brother [without even speaking to me first] vehemently defend me in my ‘absence’ to someone. One time when I was doing my detox, he brought me a bagful of fruits, completely unsolicited.  What about that time when he mentioned in passing how his life has been so much easier since I moved back to Nigeria. Make of that what you will.

Then there’s my mother who has forgotten my birthday one too many times. I mean, who forgets their own child’s birthday? Does that mean she doesn’t love me? But before I answer that, who has held the forte for nearly 2 decades since our dad passed, who has consistently bailed me out of some tough moments, who has prayed for me every day of my life, who always asks me “do you people have enough?”, who thinks the world of me etc. But who also forgets my birthdays? Yea.

What about the guy whose vibe is too relaxed in his pursuit of you? Yes. How frustrating! You know he likes you; heck you like him too [a lot] and so you wish he’d be more brazen in his attempt to woo you. That he’d text more, call more, thirst more. You wish you’d wake up to loving morning messages that add an extra pep in your step the rest of your day and go to bed with a bump on your forehead because your phone fell out of your hands as you were giggling too much reading his messages in bed at night. Instead you get scheduled calls; you sometimes get grumpy mono-syllabic responses and a generally lacklustre turkey dance that makes you wonder if one of you is being forced to keep up the charade. Alas!

While I think all 3 scenarios have an underlying theme, they are also very different illustrations.

My friends on twitter make a great case that love is about making an effort to learn your partner’s style/love language and that stepping out of character/comfort zone in itself shows a willingness to bring what it is your loved one needs from you to the table. In addition, every time you speak one another’s language, you score emotional points that do great for your relationships. However, until that desired sync is achieved, does that mean they love you any less? I’d love to hear from you guys…..a0d3fb83def75c824958bda76373ade6

So lemme ask again…….

“If someone isn’t showing you love in the way and manner that you prefer & understand, does that mean they’re not showing you love?”

Please sound out in the comments please.

Besos xx

S.


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DIY, Fun

Wedding Guest Glam

So, your’s truly was a wedding guest over the weekend and decided to do her own makeup. By Herself.

I had to choose between a bold smoky eye/nude lips or simple eyes/red lips. Because it was an evening wedding and I’ve rocked many a red lip recently, the smoky eye look won. Countless youtube tutorials later, I said a little prayer to the makeup gods to be merciful [seeing as a smoky eye is one of the trickiest] and I set to it.

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Even I had to pat myself on the back like woah! I mean, look at the perfection of that eye. Not one stroke out of place.

I wasn’t wearing falsies with this look because I just don’t know how to put them on myself. No matter how hard I try, I always end up tearing up so much that it ruins my makeup. So instead of bothering, I simply made my mascara prove its worth by applying 3 coats – one minute intervals in between.

 **warning – selfie overload**

By the time I finished my contour, I was like wuuuuuuuuuu….. Hello cheek bones! Slasher Fierce. Lol

Nothing gets you that perfect selfie like when you find your light. Lighting is everything.

And then I let my hair down………….   

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Worked out perfectly and I was happy with what I created. Do you like?

Perhaps it’s time to add MUA to my resume… lol

Have a great week ahead guys

Besos xx

S.


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Happy,, Holiday, Life, New Year

How I Spent My Holiday – LAGOS

Chuckles at the title of this blog post. Who remembers when we used to write those “How I Spent My Holiday” essays in primary/secondary school? The lies yo! “My daddy took our entire family to disneyland”, yea, if there was a Disneyland in Makurdi then sure! smh

Anyways……Lagos!

What a city!

Sucks you in, seduces you, makes you fall in love with it, then completely exasperates you and when you think you’ve gotten to the point where you’re definitely done, she sucks you right back in with her seductively enticing energy! It’s no secret I have a love-hate relationship with Lagos…. This holiday though, it was mostly love. Alot of loving. I’m afraid i’m loving Lagos a little more than is healthy and that worries me.images

What did I do? Plenty!

If you follow any of my social media pages then you already have a good idea, so consider this post a wrap up of my amazing holiday and the amazing time I’ve these last couple of weeks.

1. I took pictures. Alot. Of myself, of food, of things. Vanity is my biggest sin.

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2. I ATE! Alot. I also drank my weight in cocktails.

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 3. Indulged & satisfied all my sweet tooth cravings.

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**Notice how I categorized my deserts separately from the food? Reason: Food is for the stomach; desert isn’t. Desert doesn’t go to the stomach, it goes to the heart**

4. Had a lovely Christmas. Got gifted this beautiful mug. I love it.

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5. Met someone.

6. Went to the beach.

6.  Caught a nasty flu/chesty cough bug. Still dealing with it. Lots of un-sexy coughing, not cute at all.

7. Went to see Wakaa The Musical. Loved it.

8.  Fasted into the New Year and spent crossover night in Church. Prayed like I’ve never prayed before – with spiritual anger. I’ve set my year in motion for good, 2016 about to be lit!

9. Went to the beach. Again.

 

 10.Went on a date.

11. Alot of nothing. That good type of lazy nothingness. Thoroughly enjoyed it.

12. Did not exercise AT ALL. Not even for a day. Je ne regrette rien.

I was NOT!! ha ha

On my last night, I sat at the cafe [Inspiro Galleria] and just chilled…. whispering about nothing & everything with this really sexy guy I just met.


Indeed, I had an amazing holiday.

Back home now [in Benue] eating loads of pounded yam and genger. Next week, I’ll dust the trainers & see about a detox plan.

So you see….. My 2016 is already off to an incredibly great start.

How’s yours going? How was your holiday?

Besos xx

S.


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Christmas, Happy,, Holiday, Music, New Year, Opinion

Wakaa- The Musical [A recap] 

As already mentioned in my New Year post; over the holidays, we got VIP tickets to go see #WakaaTheMusical [don’t ask me why I’m still using the hashtag here] and we scuttled off to the venue – Muson Centre – to catch the 7pm show on the very first day it opened. I pretty much spent the entire time flooding my social media accounts with hashtags and giggles, because it was sooooooooooooooo good. I also promised you guys a proper recap/review so here goes…..

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The show opened on Wednesday – 30th December and ran until Sunday, 3rd January with 2 shows daily. I gathered that for all of those 5 days, every show was completely sold out…deservedly. Those guys put in the work. Stellar work!

Even in the picture below [taken from my vantage seat -BEST seats might I add], see how packed the hall was.

We got the BEST seats in the house yo!!!! Bird’s eye

THEME:

The experiences, challenges & trials of life/love/dreams as young graduates navigate through life.

A bunch of young people finally graduate university and get thrown into the hybrid of life. Wakaa explores how each of their lives get shaken & tested on the journey towards achieving their various dreams. It also makes the point that real life is a completely different ballgame from the colorful idealism many young people usually have while still in college and how easy it can be to lose one’s self in the hustle of modern living and harsh conditions, however, the show made sure to buttress the point that real change/impactful work is possible [even in the face of intense opposition]. Personally, I completely related to this story-line being that I’ve experienced this myself [as I’ve often shared on here].

CAST

Main Cast [graduates] – Kike, Rex, Tosan & Ngozi. Cassandra [played by Dolapo Oni], Governor Sagay [played by Bimbo Manuel] and Professor Jojoba played by Ozzy Agu.

For me, the star of the show was definitely Kike Johnson – the fashion loving, party girl, rich kid who loves to spend money – shopping & travelling. She was dating & eventually got engaged to Tosan [but never missed an opportunity to flirt with Rex]. Loved attention. She held the stage together, captivated us all with her singing & dancing and was the first performer on the stage to get a rousing applause amidst cheers & laughter from the audience.

She was good! Totally enjoyed watching her do her thing. 

Tosan – Straight jacket, idealistic, innocent, boring and a bit uptight. Was the perfect accessory to Kike’s hopes of one day becoming a first lady.

Rex – Hustler, big mouth, grand talker, overt big spender [covert broke ass]. Ran off to England in a get rich quick tide hoping for greener pastures but got cat-fished by his supposed white woman [who turned out to be a naija babe, Cassandra]. Eventually got deported back to Nigeria. Many LOLs

Ngozi – Activist, Goody goody, compassionate, honest and principled. Being a victim of child labour herself, she does great humanitarian work with children and community service. I remember every single thing she wore the entire show, she had the best wardrobe choices and a huge behind. ha ha

Cassandra – This character is the one you love to hate. Gosh she was so irritating. Annoying foneh, so extra with everything, the way she talked, danced, pranced about etc. She was the one who cat-fished Rex, she’d call him “my african sango, my chaka zulu” lmaoooo….  I hated her but she was definitely memorable.

Prof. Jojoba – Political Aspirant. Basically… Patrick Obahiagbon. Crikum, Crankum, suyaing & peppersoupping, bibma disma. Doxology. Ha ha

Governor Sagay: Incredibly Corrupt, Loud, Bad politician but utterly Hilarious. While his opponent came and was speaking big big turanci a’la Patrick Obahiagbon, my guy brought bags of rice and was spraying money; no points for guessing who the crowd inevitably sided with. One particular scene, he was challenging his opponent and next thing he breaks into a shakitibobo dance sequence… OMG!!

The entire hall erupted.. This guy was jokes! I laughed so hard to the point where I forgot to record the scene but Instagram came to my rescue as I found the clip above on Dolapo Oni’s page [permission sil vous plait :D]. Hands down my favourite scene in the entire show. Great job Bimbo Manuel.

COSTUMES & SET

Whoever was in charge of costumes and set did a fantastic job. The attention to detail was amazing, everyone looked the part and it all came together so beautifully. I particularly loved the character Ngozi’s cloth choices, they fit her body so nicely and I openly coveted each piece as she came on stage every time.

I also loved how each backdrop on stage matched every sequence/scene – like if they were at a bar, you’d see a bar setting in the back drop; or having fighter jets/armoured tanks in the background of a military themed scene.

Masquerades in the back drop during a cultural scene. So colorful.

Keen attention to detail. Two thumbs up!

   

The show ended with a rather sober sequence and that was my one little criticism with it. Because it had an equal share of such rousing & electric moments as it did sober moments [especially towards the end]; I personally would have preferred a high tempo dance sequence to wrap things up. I think it would have made for a better closing to dance [with us clapping] as they exited than this…..

I also didn’t like that the show did not start on time; it was an entire hour late to begin and people [read -ME] got impatient and because I went there having not had dinner, I was soooo hungry that by the time the show wrapped up I was barely speaking. Parts of the show draaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaagggggggeeeedd!! I thought some scenes could be done without in that they added nothing to the story-line. Shola was playing ruzzle on her phone at some point lol.

I also assumed seating was according to the “power” of your ticket type but trust Nigerians to pull tricks. At some point, the ushers had to come check tickets and remove wrongly sat people to make space for the actual VIP ticket owners. But the way I see it, if they were stood in their right positions from the jump, directing people accordingly, there would not have been a reason to start trying to re-seat people afterwards.

However, in saying all these, I went to see the show on day 1 so I completely understand that there would be logistic issues and organizational kinks to iron out on day 1, totally expected, but hopefully as days went by, those little organizational hiccups were taken care of [if you went on later days, maybe you can share your observation in the comments below]

…….Overall, job well done!!!! Wakaa the Musical was phenomenal. 8/10.  High praise from me!

The Cast … Its a wrap!

Did you go? What did you think of it? Are you a fan of musicals/Broadway styled shows in general?

I’d love to hear your thoughts below.

Happy new year again everyone

Besos xx

S.


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