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Let People Enjoy Things

 Except you’ve been living under a rock; you already know that the latest thing to have taken over the world is Pokemon Go! Incase you don’t already know, Pokemon Go is a location based reality mobile game that requires you to have an internet compatible iOS or Andriod device which you then use via GPS or Camera to capture, train & battle with virtual creatures ~ Pokemon. One more mobile/internet distraction but hey! People are OBSESSED and I’m sure the creators are so happily smiling to bank… Ka-ching!!!

All seems like clean easy fun and shouldn’t be a big deal right? Yes! Except there have been several reports of people getting shot & killed especially in trigger-happy America when they enter other people’s property in search of virtual pokemons and the home owners mistake them for trespassers/burglars. But there are also the people who have nothing but great things to say about this game; like the mum of an autistic boy who is suddenly interacting with people and seems to be making a lot of developmental progress on the premise of enjoying Pokemon Go. There are also the group of people who infer that anyone who is into the game is childish & jobless [because you should be busy chasing that paper and making bank, not literally chasing some virtual devil creatures] Lol.

What a time to be alive!

However, as expected, there has been a lot of criticisms of this new game and while reading the arguments for/against on twitter the other day, someone tweeted this…….

“LET PEOPLE ENJOY THINGS”

Such a simple statement yet it has stayed with me since the first day I read it. Since then, there hasn’t been a day I don’t tweet it or say it out loud to myself. Words so simple yet so succinct! Words so simple yet so meaningful and impactful. Words so simple yet so far reaching in consequence &implication. Clearly that advice transcended the pokemon debate for me and suddenly held a far more important implication for me – let people enjoy things.  In other words, live and let live! Basically, tolerate the opinions and behaviour of others so that they too will in turn similarly tolerate your own. It could all be this simple…..

LET PEOPLE ENJOY THINGS!

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For example, I personally love to eat soggy cereal but so many people will barf at this [until they finally see the light] lol. When I make cereal, I sometimes pop it in the microwave for about 30 seconds to get the milk warm and soak the crunch. I’ve been called disgusting for this and I usually just laugh it off because this cereal is going into my mouth not yours; so why so anal? However, on the flip side, there have been many times I judged people for some of the food choices they enjoy too. Hypocrite much! Let people enjoy things…..

What about our church shenanigans? We dole out severe side eyes to anybody who is dancing too hard or shouting too much or just being hyperactive in general [normal day in a typical Nigerian church] while we are sat in our corner being all poised and chic. Of course, there is always that one brother or sister who always takes things too far [we call it “doing the most”] and roll our eyes at them every chance. No problem! Except, you don’t know their story and even if you did, how exactly is their loudness/hyperactivity affecting you personally? Let people enjoy things….

Don’t we all have that one person/account we love to hate on social media? We scrutinize everything they do or say, we help them count their money, we call them materialistic, we suggest that their lives aren’t nearly as flashy as they try to paint it, we love to moan & bitch about them all the time yet…. We never actually unfollow them. Why? Glutton for punishment? We argue with them about what constitutes their reality and fail to realize that our Sunday best is some people’s meh. See these fingers…. Let People Enjoy Things.

There was a time I could go out EVERY SINGLE DAY and club at least once a week. These days though, the mention of going to a club gives me instant headache and I just can’t anymore. I don’t know what changed, but something did and that’s all well & good. However, I see people who hang up the boots and suddenly start making weirdly condescending comments towards folks who still enjoy that hard core night life. Contrary to popular Nigerian opinion, going hard with the night life scene doesn’t mean the person is jobless or unserious about their life’s priorities. These days I enjoy lounges & chill music better than smoke filled rooms with boom speakers but that’s just me; if someone enjoys the latter, that’s their prerogative…. Let People Enjoy Things.

Say about gay people and their rights, you don’t have to agree with their choices but you also don’t have to actively seek them out and be hateful towards them. What they do in their personal life shouldn’t matter as long as it doesn’t personally affect yours.… it’s so simple. Let People Enjoy Things.

Obviously, some of these are just mundane everyday examples but we carry this behavior into even bigger life issues and it affects our quality of life at work, school, relationships, marriages, etc. where any opinion expressed that is in any way different from ours is deemed stupid/silly or where if anyone shows an interest in something we don’t particularly like or enjoy, we attempt to rubbish. Piss poor!

Imagine a world where we all purposefully lived in this truth – to not try and doctor or police people’s choices about things that have no direct impact on our personal lives – however different those things are to the things we like/enjoy.

Personally speaking, this is not an easy thing for me to do because I can be so set in my opinions and truly hate anything that disrupts my normal BUT I am challenging myself going forward to let people enjoy things; whatever those things are and however far removed they are from my reality. I will……

….…. Let People Enjoy Things.

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Will you join me?

What do you promise to let people enjoy? Chime-in in the comments section below.

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I’ve been trying my hands at silhouette photography and below are some of my trials that turned out so well that I think I want to stop playing and truly learn this thing for real. What you say?

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  • Reply Amara July 20, 2016 at 6:04 pm

    I love love this blog! And I completely agree with you. Why yuck someone else’s yum? Personally I enjoy soggy cereal with copious amounts of milk lol I still got the side eye from my sister this morning but I went ahead and enjoyed my cereal anyway!

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin July 20, 2016 at 6:11 pm

      Yuck someone’s yum… That’s so apt! I wish I thought to word it this way 😀 I used to have an oyibo housemate who would refer to my Egusi as “that smelly thing” until I caught her stealing from my pot at 3am one day smh. Thank you so much Amara!
      Don’t forget to subscribe xx

  • Reply Halima July 20, 2016 at 6:37 pm

    I loved reading this piece. It resonated with me. We all really need to sit down and let people enjoy things. Subconsciously I find myself doing this. I promise to let people enjoy whatever it is they like to do with their life in general. Life is short. We shouldn’t really be living it as trolls.

    P.s- You look gorgeous as always. Yes to you trying out silhouette photography. Go for it! Rooting for you. ❤

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin July 20, 2016 at 6:54 pm

      “Life is short, we really shouldn’t be living it as trolls”…… Gbam!
      Thanks babe and yes, I’m definitely taking the photography thing seriously. ?❤️

  • Reply MrBure July 20, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    First of all, take these here for being such an awesome human being: ??

    I couldn’t agree more. People should be free to enjoy the things they like, things that bring them joy, without being subjected to the oftentimes moronic opinions which permeate society in general. Like, aren’t there bigger issues to deal with than “that guy likes men”, “she’s always posting jewellery on her instagram”, “they’re always in the club” and all that jazz?

    If the energy people devoted to petty arguments and such on social media was channelled into serious issues like say, the fact that our country allows little girls to be married off to 57 year-old men as long as their parents agree, or that despite the state of the economy, our Federal legislooters are still the highest paid lawmakers in the world, we’d have a better country and a better world.

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin July 20, 2016 at 8:48 pm

      I am an awesome human being?? Yaaaaaay me ??????, thank you Hun ???.
      Glad you enjoyed & agreed with my thoughts & yes, that energy could definitely be channelled better ??

  • Reply Cent July 20, 2016 at 8:59 pm

    Finally read. Excellent piece. I’m all for giving people freedom to do whatever they want so long as it doesn’t stop others from doing whatever they want too. I still judge the hell outta people, though, I guess the good thing is I only judge people’s intelligence and always keep my opinions of it to myself.
    The downside, if you wish, is that my interaction with people is usually based on how intelligent I think they are. I understand I could misjudge some people and miss out on great friendships and all that.
    I wish I could promise to judge less, I can’t. But I will try.

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin July 20, 2016 at 9:08 pm

      Lmaoooooo so goddamn honest! I don’t think anyone can ever not judge [i know I can’t], it just becomes a problem when the judgement is so blatantly & the thoughts are shared in a way that makes people uncomfortable especially if you weren’t asked; just keep it to yourself! A Promise to try is in itself awesome … Thanks for reading xx

    • Reply Halima July 20, 2016 at 9:32 pm

      The part where you said your interaction with people is based on intelligence…soo me. Kindred spirits ✌

  • Reply Nugwa July 21, 2016 at 12:42 pm

    My new mantra : let people enjoy things.
    Amazing read, you’re good with words.

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin July 21, 2016 at 12:53 pm

      Thank you for reading & yes to the new mantra.
      Cheers Hun XX

  • Reply Niz July 26, 2016 at 8:51 am

    This post was great and it made a lot of common sense. I agree with Nugwa too, you are great with words.

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin July 26, 2016 at 10:06 am

      Thank you 🙂

  • Reply Chiny September 3, 2016 at 2:29 pm

    ” so set in my ways”
    I can relate to that. And I am all about ” Let people enjoy things” I have consciously being doing that for over a year. It gets easier.
    I’m learning to live intentionally and also enjoy moments and not turn everything to ” Analyse this”

    Lovely write up , still clueless about Pokemon Go, but I love the dedication it’s fans have.

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