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My music and me 

 Music is life!!!

Image result for music quotesI’m a huge lover of music. I play music when I’m just chilling at home, when I’m having a bad day, when I’m happy, when I’m in the bath/loo, when I’m in a car…every place! Every day! My music reflects/affects my mood and I honestly can’t imagine a world without music. It’ll be Drab and Gray and Sad and nobody will be able to cope. I want no parts. Music is so powerful that you don’t need to understand the language/words to be moved – remember Julia Robert’s first time at the opera in Pretty Woman? Powerful.

I believe that a person’s taste in music says a lot about them and I’ve definitely bonded with/unplugged from people on account of music. Once, I fell for a boy because [amongst other things], he used to make me these amazing sleep playlists every week and he introduced me to music that I would never have found by myself; special place in my heart.  Infact, now that I think of it, boys have been using music to toast for a while, I remember this boy in secondary school who would make me mix –tapes , yea, actual CASSETTE TAPES

I did tell you guys last week that I’ve been in a bit of a funk and while I’m not exactly peaches and rainbows yet, I am a lot better now than I was when I wrote that post, thank God. During this period, I’ve not been sleeping well; infact, my sleep pattern is so rubbish that I feel sorry for myself when I’ll need to recalibrate. Like yesterday [today actually], I went to bed at about  4:40am and it’s been this way for a while now. Sigh.

Anyways, since I couldn’t sleep, I decided to play music. I didn’t make a playlist; I just let my player do its thing randomly. As expected, I have all kinds of music/genres in my library, ALL KINDS and each one represents a vivid memory in my mind. It occurred to me some time ago that with every song I’ve ever liked, I have a distinct memory attached to it. I can tell you exactly where I was/what I was doing/who I was with etc when I first heard it or at least, when it first registered in my mind that I liked it. Every single one has a backstory. Yup! So I decided to make it even more fun by playing a little game – for every song that came on, I’d write about the memory I associate to the song. Here goes….

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I Miss You [Beyonce]  – First time I heard this song, I was visiting my friend Shola and we were just gisting in her room when it came on on her ipod dock. Coincidentally, I was going through a breakup at the time and so it got me in my feelings so much that I cried like somebody beat me; and because I enjoy torturing myself, I went and downloaded it immediately. I came back to Abuja armed with the perfect heartbreak song; I’d sit by myself everyday, play it on repeat and cry myself to sleep for like 6 months ha ha… It’s still one of my favourite Beyonce songs and I still get emotional when I listen to it.

You Know I’m No Good [Amy Winehouse] – This song takes me right back to the balcony of my undergraduate apartment on the 7th floor of Desa Palma, Malaysia. It was my first taste at actual freedom in my very own apartment all by myself. LISTEN…. YOU COULDN’T TELL ME NOTHING!! I’d play Amy on ignorant levels and dare my neighbours to knock on my door with complaints. I’d stand on the balcony, drink in hand, people watching and feeling like THIS IS THE LIFE! Good times! It was on one of those balcony days that I watched as the boy I liked who had just stood me up earlier for dinner came to drop off another girl while ignoring my calls – [cue Me and Mr. Jones: what kind of fuckery are you?] I’m sad she died, her death felt for me like it was someone I knew personally and when you actually think about it, how much more personal does it get than Amy’s music?

How To Save A Life [The Fray] – One phrase: Greys Anatomy! Season 2 : Izzie & Denny’s love story, Denny surviving surgery..ah! My heart was so tight; I thought I’d pass out. Since then, the song has been featured twice more on the show in Season 7 and very recently, on the episode WHERE SHONDA RHIMES LOST HER DAMN MIND AND KILLED DEREK OFF THE SHOW.  Expectedly, since getting featured on Greys; the song reached quadruple platinum status [if that exists], beyond successful. It also became the theme song for season 3 of the show and the cast even recreated it. I always say how much of a great gift idea it is if someone gave me the entire compilation of the all the music ever played on Greys Anatomy from season 1 till date, awesome source for finding new music.  Oh and remember on Season 8 of American idol when the song was played after Danny Gokey’s audition for his wife who had just passed away from heart complications.  *sweaty eyes*

Chasing Pavements [Adele]

should I give up or should I just keep chasing pavements, even if it leads no where?….”

I was on vacation cooped up in my hotel room, cosy in bed [BY MYSELF] and I turn on the TV and on comes the most striking British voice I’ve heard in a minute, I sat up immediately, logged on to youtube and began a journey into what has become an amazing love story with my baby girl Adele.  This chic just stands there, in a huge tent of a black dress, no gimmicks, no dancers, no flashing lights, no psychedelic discos, just a voice…. I dare you to watch the live performance of – Someone like you – at the Brits and not wipe your eyes. Such presence! Besides the amazing music she makes, I love how unapologetic she is about  herself and I love that she cusses and swears like a sailor and she cackles like no self-respecting lady should but it’s so adorable and real and it tickles.


She comes across as real and relatable and totally awesome, I wanna be besties with her. And that delicious British accent that comes through so clearly even in her music…..I especially love her because she took a bad situation and turned it into multiple millions of dollars, wiping out all awards while at it and giving the Ex a big fat middle finger! She wins for you, she wins for me, she wins for any girl who ever got her heart broken but only sat in a corner, ate ice-cream, cried and got fat[ter]. Ha ha.

Breathe [Blu Cantrell ft. Sean Paul] – OMG!!! Major throwback no?! First time I heard this song was from watching the video on Channel O … ancient of days 😀 Where is Blu Cantrell? Listen! I rocked this song well, I’d be singing aloud like…

“you say you love me, say you love me but you’re never there for me….Then comes the drama some other girl is claiming she’s going out with you… All we do is make up, then break up… When love hurts, it won’t work….”

You can tell I’ve always been a lover girl sha ha ha. Everything was so shiny in that video. I’m glad the fashunz has changed since then.

How’s A Man Supposed To Change [Blue] – This entire album is still one of my faves. I got the CD off of a friend and played it so much that by the time I managed to return it, she refused to collect it because it had over scratched and I had to buy her a new one. It was in this song I found out that some superstitious oyibo people believe that if you break a mirror, you’d be cursed with seven years of badluck; just as the ones that believe that if you don’t make eye contact while clinking glasses during a toast, you’d be cursed with 7 years of bad sex. Better don’t take the chance. LOL

Crossroads [Bone Thugs N Harmony]

                                      “and we pray and we pray and we pray…everyday everyday everyday everyday                                                                                           See you tha crossroads so you won’t be lonely”

OMG! BCC Mkar Estate, Gboko. The video for this song gave me nightmares for months. And it didn’t help that my family friend who was a super fan and introduced me to it died shortly after. Horror. Nowadays, when I’m badly in need of Ogbono soup raps, I make do with Twista; if for nothing, I’m sure that I won’t have any nightmares.

Music and Me [Nate Dogg] – I love this man. I love this song. I don’t know what else to say. RIP.

I Want You [Ceelo Green] –  I was aboard an Emirates flight enroute England when I first heard this song. I pretty much spent the rest of the flight with it on repeat and 5 years later, it’s still my song. Let me just say clearly that nothing about Ceelo Green’s physical looks inspires any type of pink dreams for me but on account of the lyrics of this song, I wished he was my lover and had written this song for me. This song is an ode from a man who’s tired of the party scene/fast life and ready to dedicate his life to this …. Ladies, has a man ever thanked the Lord for you?

                                                 “Ooooh …one rarely finds a lady, who happens to be three times the lady…                                                                           God is good, he took his time when he designed you baby, that’s why I want you….                                                                            And, oh I’ll even quit my job, loving you, I’ll make it my job…                                                                                                            Thank you Lord, thank you Lord, this is it my God!”

Don’t Turn The Lights On [Chromeo] – I found Chromeo sometime in 2011 from the comments section of Miafarradaily’s blog and I haven’t looked back since. I recently found a song they did with Solange called  -Lost On My Way Home – Imagine the epicness. Just go to YouTube and watch every Chromeo song you can find. You’re welcome.

Shorty Got Her Eyes On Me [Donnell Jones] – My uncle Dennis. He loves this song so much and transferred the love to me, never mind that the lyrics were far too colorful for my teenage self to be singing them so confidently. What is it about some of these RnB artists that somehow makes their raunchy lyrics sound like Sunday school hymns? He needs to drop something new though, with his 3 hits having ass.

Heaven [Emeli Sande] – Buchanan Station, Glasgow 2012. I was visiting friends and while waiting to be picked, this song came on. Instant hit! I bought the album off Itunes as soon after; it’s one of the few albums I’ve actually ever purchased off Itunes.  Nowadays I remember her as one of my Ex’s favourite artist, ergo, not so fun.

Hurricane [Eric Benet] – It was many years ago, on a cold windy night. I was listening to Nike Coker’s show on Coolfm [via my Nokia 3230]. It was a request show and someone called in to request this song and that was it. I called in and re-requested for it but they said they couldn’t play it twice in such short interval and since there was no spotify/easy internet then,I was stuck. But once I got access, I downloaded it immediately. It’s such a sad yet hopeful song, he’d written it about the period of his sex addiction and resulting divorce from Halle Berry. I love this song and the message it captures – sometimes things will get crazy chaotic before they become calm and that very calm is  embedded in the chaos.

                                       “A hurricane, a hurricane is sometimes the only way to wash away the pain….                                                                    A hurricane, a hurricane is sometimes the only thing that brings you back again”

AS [George Micheal ft. Mary J. Blige]

“As around the sun the earth knows she’s revolving… And the rosebuds know to bloom in early May.. Just as hate knows love’s a cure, you can rest your mind assured, that i’ll be loving you always….”

How comforting! It reminds me of my dad.

Daddy’s Home [Usher] – I want a husband just so I can play this song [from our surround sound home system] when I see his car pull up the driveway. He’ll get into the house and I’ll be standing by the bedroom door like – hey daddy – muahahhahahahaa. SideBar: Why is Usher so hot?

Magician [Ice Prince ft Gyptian] – I LOVE THIS SONG!! It was a cold night in liverpool; I was sitting in my room listening to Gidilounge and waiting for my heater to get toasty . No fucks were given on this track in terms of being politically correct – you drop bomb like a Pakistan – and that’s exactly why it rocks. Still one of my faves from Ice Prince.

A Long Walk [Jill Scott] – I found this song after seeing the video for – Getting In The Way – on Channel O; I figured whoever she is, there’s definitely more where that came from. And I was right. Jill Scott is a whoooooooooooooooooooooole lotta woman and I’m here for it all.

Stutter [Joe ft. Mystikal] – If you know me, you know I love Mystikal. I mean, what’s not to love about a rapper who cares about my wellbeing?  – “shake your ass, but watch yourself” – why thank you! I’ll be careful. I still remember the orange car on the dusty lone road and Mystikal losing his mind, I was entertained.

The High Road [Joss Stone] – One my all-time favourite singers. Her voice is sonorous and rich and doesn’t sound like its coming out of a white chic at all. She’s amazing. I have actual original copies of Joss Stone CDs, what does that tell you? I heard this song for the first time at an apple store in Liverpool One where I’d gone to replace my ipad screen. I struck up conversation with one of the store guys, a wide eyed Italian boy all the time wowing about how I couldn’t believe there was a Joss Stone song I didn’t know…being all cute. He took my number and proceeded to text me asking where I lived and whether he could stop by mine after his shift for drinks? I’m like sure we can do drinks but definitely not in my house; So damn forward. He never texted me again.  Black or white, men are men – looking to score with the most minimal effort. FOH!

Tired [Kelly Price] – In the land of hurt/heartbroken/angry music, Kelly Price is the Mayor. She makes great angry music but on this song, she’s not angry, she’s tired and you can actually feel her tiredness come through clearly. I found this song after a breakup. Yea yea… what’s new?   

Battle Scars [Lupe Fiasco ft. Guy Sabastian] – It’s almost 2am, I’m in my bed but obviously not asleep when my friend Hauwa buzzes me thus – have you heard this song? – I go no and she replies – look for it. And I did. And henceforth, I take music recommendations from Hauwa very seriously. It’s on my workout playlist, I kick ass to it many times a week. 

One [U2 ft Mary J. Blige] – Miss Mary finished work on this song okay? She took the bridge and chewed it and spat it out and dared anybody to come have a go and nobody did. What?!!!! I heard it for the first time on a documentary about U2 and frankly I don’t understand why because they should be ashamed to say this song is theirs, Mary owned it. 

By Your Side [Sade] – This song takes me back to Makurdi, those NTA color bars and connecting raindrops on window louvers;  which is weird because it’s not this actual song that NTA used to play, it was –Sweetest Taboo – but it just tells you how the brain makes these associations and connections. Sade is bae with her huge opon. Bae.

Step by Step [Whitney Houston] – I don’t know if I have a favourite Whitney song, but if I do then this one is the permanent second. I want to say it my fave but…. The video is so playful and happy and upbeat and Whitney’s shoulder dance is the best okay? Its one of those songs I grew up hearing around the house a lot, both my parents are huge Whitney fans and they passed it down to me. I accept.

Novacane [Frank Ocean] – Hmmmmnnn.…. A cute boy, ridiculous flirting, a train ride to Manchester, many drinks and…. plays till fade.

At this point, my vision started getting blurry so I had to stop…. And finally get that sleep.

What do you think about my music?


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  • Reply Zee June 16, 2015 at 4:11 pm

    “…did I disappoint you? Or leave a bad taste in your mouth?

    …Have you come here for forgiveness? Have you come to raise the dead? Have you come here to play JEEEESSSSUUUUS? To the lepers in your head…”


    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin June 16, 2015 at 4:23 pm

      Sing mama!!!!!! Let it oooooooooooouuuuuutttttttttt

      Song oh! Song!

  • Reply MrBure June 16, 2015 at 4:19 pm

    I haven’t heard all the songs on this list, but Me and Mr Jones is one of my all-time favourites. How to Save a Life too. And Heaven.

    Sometimes, I post lyrics from songs on my BBM status and get people all up in my bidness going, “Whatchu talkin bout?” And I laugh and laugh because they don’t know my struggle. Or something.

    As for break-up songs, you can’t get much more miserable than “Bitter Wine” by Bon Jovi. And when you’re finally ready to move on, “Since You’ve Been Gone” by Kelly Clarkson is one of the best “so long biaaaatch!” songs ever recorded.

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin June 16, 2015 at 4:28 pm

      Your bbm statuses are so blatant how don’t they know it’s lyrics or lines out of movies?
      Bon Jovi…. My friend Dooshima knows all this! Super fan! I feel like breakup songs by men aren’t the same as from women, seeing as we experience heartbreak differently.
      Ha ha @ so long biaaaaaatch. I also think that British singers capture emotions better than their counterparts, Rebecca Ferguson comes to mind.
      I have people going to their music archives today, love it! Ha ha

  • Reply Tobi June 16, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    I. Love. Every. Song. Loudest “aww” on your memories for “You Know I’m No Good”. People always diss me for this. And maybe I’m just holding on to it because nobody else feels this way but I prefer the version of “One” without Mary J X_X…

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin June 16, 2015 at 4:44 pm

      Gasp* noooooooooooo! Mary made this song. I bet there are so many people who don’t even know there’s a version without her or who went to listen to that version only after hearing the one with her.
      The one without Mary is like a pasta dish without cheese – travesty! Lol

  • Reply jemmyma June 16, 2015 at 5:01 pm

    Apparently, like you…Music is perfect bait for me. i have never been on ur site before..but when you are writing about music , im like ” I wanna see!!!”
    AND you did a magnificent job. *applause..
    i would say every song i ever hear takes me back to the very time i first heard it, or paid attention.
    I like ur sense of humour.
    and yes, Sade is BAE!

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin June 16, 2015 at 5:11 pm

      Aww thank you Jemmyma, I’m glad you checked it out and happy that my sense of humour connects.
      Absolutely right, Good Music takes one back to the very first time indeed.
      I hope you keep coming back 😀

  • Reply ibiayo June 16, 2015 at 5:03 pm

    *I just wanna get your attention….. i really wanna be all up in your headddddd….* Chai! That was my jam!!!!! I’m definitely gonna download some of this songs tonight out of curiosity.
    P.s I looveeee the way you write! Feels like you’re gisting and I can almost hear your voice even though I have no idea what your voice sounds like. Lol

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin June 16, 2015 at 5:14 pm

      Aww thank you Ibiayo
      I always hope that My style of writing connects as intended because reading shouldn’t be tedious and I’m happy that comes across.
      Thank you for your kind comments and let me know if you like the new music you download xx

  • Reply Tayo June 16, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    I must say I have the oddest taste in music; one moment I’m listening to “California Girls” by Katy Perry and the next, I’m on to “Omo Rapala – Abass Obesere”. But it’s the life that chose me.
    It’s the “soul” genre that wears me out and gets boring….and then I jump on some Nas to “G-up” myself again.
    Lol (wicked laugh) at you crying like someone beat you listening to “Beyonce’s I Miss You”, pele. But that’s how music shreds your facade. I must say the mood determines the choice most of the time.
    Ranted on for some mins now…..ahh and I must say till this day, I always and will always remember where I was the day I first heard Toni Braxton’s Breathe Again..and I thought immediately “That is a hit”

    • GorgeousBskin
      Reply GorgeousBskin June 16, 2015 at 6:01 pm

      Ha ha.. My library is the exact way, the only reason Olomi -by Tosin Martins isn’t in this list is because I started dozing off.
      I can’t believe the soul genre wears you out, boring? It’s the best! Especially neo-soul – my favourite genre of music.
      You definitely know a hit when you hear it – Luscious Lyon shit. Cackles*

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