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Hair, Lifestyle, Randomness, wellness

I did it!!!! 

Guys….. Guess what?

I cut my haaaaaaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiiiirrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!

Yes! ALL OF IT!

So what had happened? What’s the story? Sorry to disappoint y’all but there’s none. At least not a spicy one ~ nobody broke my heart, it’s not a declaration of any sort, it’s not the intro to some “new year/new me” BS and it’s certainly not a “big chop” a’la naturalista speak. Nothing! Except really bad split ends, a receding hairline a’la Iya Bose and a generally unhealthiness to my otherwise luscious Tiv hair.

I mean, I’ve toyed with the idea of shaving it all off for a while but I always ended up talking myself out if it. I’d tell myself that maybe I should wait till I had lost some weight ergo shed the chubby cheeks [lol], and/or wait until I had changed my wardrobe to match my new look etc. Then i’d get overwhelmed and just abort mission. Rinse and repeat!

So exactly a week ago, I took out  braids and when I tell you the braids ran away with my edges…. A mess! I just thought to myself – what the hell, it’s just hair, it’ll grow back plus I’m Tiv….hair aplenty! And that was that! There was no going back! I didn’t even let myself over-think it this time … On the night I decided, I was out by noon of the next day sitting in a barber’s chair armed with my inspiration picture like cut it!cut it!cut it!cut it! the hair is way too bad ,you need to cut it *lol*

It’s exactly a week today and I’m LOVING IT!! Shower time is a goddamn production. When the water hits my head and trickles all the way down my back, I can’t help but wonder to myself why I waited so long to do this. And then the fresh air that hits me each time I step out… Magical I tell ya!

I won’t lie, when I decided to cut it, I wasn’t sure what the outcome would be like. I worried that I’d look like a boy with breasts and it wont work with my thickums frame but let me tell y’all….. Best decision ever! As I walked out of the barber’s shop after cutting it, totally unsure about how I was feeling, I shit you guys not, some man was coming into the salon at that exact moment and said to me “you look beautiful”… whoop! I basically floated all the way back home like yea bitches! Ha ha

You know what’s surprising? The reactions I’ve been getting have been so great for my already inflated self esteem. I honestly thought I was wiping out an entire pool of potential toasters with my prepubescent boy cut but nah… It seems like what I did was open a wider pool. Heck; I’ve gone on 2 dates since this hair cut and I AM NOT COMPLAINING. LIKE AT ALL. And it’s only been a week! If we continue at this rate, I’d probably be ending 2016 with a husband. HA! jk! No not really! jk!

The only downside I’d say I’ve noticed is that with short hair, there can’t be that many “no makeup” days lest you end up looking like you’re sick.

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Without Makeup… Call me Bros!

I normally don’t wear makeup everyday [even when I’m going out] but with this new haircut, I have to at least fleek the eyebrows and dust my lips before I go out and that’s problematic for me [speaking as someone who doesn’t wear makeup everyday]. But for y’all hot potato mamacitas who do not like to carry last and generally fleek the damn face everyday, this is right up your street. So go forth and flourish!

You know what works tho? Red lips! Like… it’s a match made in short hair heaven.

I mean… am I glowing or nah? Hellur

My sister [who is totally jealous of my new hair btw] has been drooling talking about “maybe I should cut my hair too” and I’m just looking at her like ~ jealousy is a disease ~ “Amoshine when amoshine” lol. Also, she has the healthiest long hair, with perfect edges so why rock the boat when it’s not shaking? Girl bye!

My sister & I

You people should have told me sooner that life as an adult female with short hair is quite THE EXPERIENCE! I would have done it sooner. Since they didn’t, i’m here to tell you… If you’re considering taking this plunge, DO IT! All I advice is that you do your research prior – look at countless pictures of people with your face/body type rocking different short hair styles, ask your loved ones to help you pick, speak with stylists etc. There is a haircut to suit every kind of face/head shape, so find yours!

 PS: Shout out to my snapchat family for helping me vote with the options I posted asking their opinions. Y’all truly came through hard. Thank you so much.

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So what you say? Do you like my new haircut?

Happy Holidays xx

S.


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Thanksgiving, Tidbits, Tiv

A very Tiv Thanksgiving 

 Good Morning Lovelies 😀

Yes… Yes… I know… I’ve been bad. Forgive me & love me again… Please……

If I had to explain why I’ve been so quiet on here, you’d definitely understand and maybe even feel sorry for me but let’s not go down that path okay? Just know that I’m sorry it’s taken me this long to circle back here but I truly needed that time-out and I missed you guys a lot. How are y’all doing?

One thing I tend to take for granted is my overall good health; the worst illness I usually have is flu of which I may have a bout of maybe once or twice tops in a year. Basically, I hardly fall sick and I’m generally a person of sound mind & body all year round which is why when a random but routine visit to the hospital a few months ago turned in a quick unplanned surgery, it was so shocking & difficult for me. Yes guys, no prior talks, no warning, no preparation…. I just got there and the doctor was like “uhm, Ms. S. we are sorry but we can’t let you go home right away”… *cue palpitations & tears*. It was scary, traumatizing and painful but I’m happy to report that I’m 100% okay now and all is well with me. So now, when you ask me to count my blessings, good health will definitely be on the top of that list.

This year has truly been a strange year. It started with so much optimism and I was so sure it would end with my “solid” plans falling in place but life happened and here we are; optimism bank on deficit and a lot of ‘erm erm’s but I am still alive and that says my story hasn’t ended right? Right! Sure, I experienced a lot of trials this year, yes things/experiences hurt, yes I cried a lot, yes many of my plans fell through, yes all my ducks aren’t in a row but who is still here typing this blog post and nibbling on chocolate? It truly put things in perspective because none of those things compare to life & good health; and seeing how quick/easy the tables can turn was a very humbling/teachable moment for me. Like what is the worth of those plans, those wants, those needs if there isn’t life or if you’re laying on a hospital bed unable to function? Fix my mindset/perspective quickly!

On another note,  if you’ve read this blog long enough, you know that I constantly fight with God and I’m very open/vocal about those moments on here. This year [a few months ago actually] marked the beginning of a new chapter in our relationship – God & Me. I found myself circling back to my maker like the biblical prodigal daughter, we are still in the middle of “talks” that aren’t comfortable but we are definitely on the mend – me working on my attitude towards him – and things are looking better. This makes me happy because even in the worst of it, I knew that my rebellion & anger wasn’t the way but I can be so stubborn… sigh. God must sometimes look at me with amusement while shaking his head like “this child is such a clown”*hides face*

Anyways, in the midst of all of this and with me being in such an emotionally/spiritually pleasant head space, when I found out that 4th December was the official Thanksgiving Service in my church, I started preparing for it weeks prior – counting my blessings and putting on the garment of praise & thanksgiving. Thanksgiving in my church is a BIG DEAL ok! We literally roll out in our “sunday bests” and party it up in thanks to Jesus and I for one was not going to carry last. The moment I heard, I immediately knew I was going to go fully dressed as a Tiv Woman – repping my culture.

So come sunday the 4th; I woke up bright and early [4am] and got ready to go get my praise on. Anways… without further ado I present to you…… Kwase Tiv

Proudly Tiv!

   

Wasn’t able to get the best full lenght shots but …………

 

Tiv Women… or market women? Lol

Save for the random cultural night in undergrad, this is the first time in my proper adult life that I dressed in my Tiv cultural attire and so it meant a lot to me that so many people loved it; it was truly a hit virtually & in real life. I truly felt like a #TivPrincess… perhaps I should dress like this more often [when appropriate].

Do you like?

Love…..

S. xx

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musings, Opinion, Randomness, thoughts

Let People Enjoy Things

 Except you’ve been living under a rock; you already know that the latest thing to have taken over the world is Pokemon Go! Incase you don’t already know, Pokemon Go is a location based reality mobile game that requires you to have an internet compatible iOS or Andriod device which you then use via GPS or Camera to capture, train & battle with virtual creatures ~ Pokemon. One more mobile/internet distraction but hey! People are OBSESSED and I’m sure the creators are so happily smiling to bank… Ka-ching!!!

All seems like clean easy fun and shouldn’t be a big deal right? Yes! Except there have been several reports of people getting shot & killed especially in trigger-happy America when they enter other people’s property in search of virtual pokemons and the home owners mistake them for trespassers/burglars. But there are also the people who have nothing but great things to say about this game; like the mum of an autistic boy who is suddenly interacting with people and seems to be making a lot of developmental progress on the premise of enjoying Pokemon Go. There are also the group of people who infer that anyone who is into the game is childish & jobless [because you should be busy chasing that paper and making bank, not literally chasing some virtual devil creatures] Lol.

What a time to be alive!

However, as expected, there has been a lot of criticisms of this new game and while reading the arguments for/against on twitter the other day, someone tweeted this…….

“LET PEOPLE ENJOY THINGS”

Such a simple statement yet it has stayed with me since the first day I read it. Since then, there hasn’t been a day I don’t tweet it or say it out loud to myself. Words so simple yet so succinct! Words so simple yet so meaningful and impactful. Words so simple yet so far reaching in consequence &implication. Clearly that advice transcended the pokemon debate for me and suddenly held a far more important implication for me – let people enjoy things.  In other words, live and let live! Basically, tolerate the opinions and behaviour of others so that they too will in turn similarly tolerate your own. It could all be this simple…..

LET PEOPLE ENJOY THINGS!

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For example, I personally love to eat soggy cereal but so many people will barf at this [until they finally see the light] lol. When I make cereal, I sometimes pop it in the microwave for about 30 seconds to get the milk warm and soak the crunch. I’ve been called disgusting for this and I usually just laugh it off because this cereal is going into my mouth not yours; so why so anal? However, on the flip side, there have been many times I judged people for some of the food choices they enjoy too. Hypocrite much! Let people enjoy things…..

What about our church shenanigans? We dole out severe side eyes to anybody who is dancing too hard or shouting too much or just being hyperactive in general [normal day in a typical Nigerian church] while we are sat in our corner being all poised and chic. Of course, there is always that one brother or sister who always takes things too far [we call it “doing the most”] and roll our eyes at them every chance. No problem! Except, you don’t know their story and even if you did, how exactly is their loudness/hyperactivity affecting you personally? Let people enjoy things….

Don’t we all have that one person/account we love to hate on social media? We scrutinize everything they do or say, we help them count their money, we call them materialistic, we suggest that their lives aren’t nearly as flashy as they try to paint it, we love to moan & bitch about them all the time yet…. We never actually unfollow them. Why? Glutton for punishment? We argue with them about what constitutes their reality and fail to realize that our Sunday best is some people’s meh. See these fingers…. Let People Enjoy Things.

There was a time I could go out EVERY SINGLE DAY and club at least once a week. These days though, the mention of going to a club gives me instant headache and I just can’t anymore. I don’t know what changed, but something did and that’s all well & good. However, I see people who hang up the boots and suddenly start making weirdly condescending comments towards folks who still enjoy that hard core night life. Contrary to popular Nigerian opinion, going hard with the night life scene doesn’t mean the person is jobless or unserious about their life’s priorities. These days I enjoy lounges & chill music better than smoke filled rooms with boom speakers but that’s just me; if someone enjoys the latter, that’s their prerogative…. Let People Enjoy Things.

Say about gay people and their rights, you don’t have to agree with their choices but you also don’t have to actively seek them out and be hateful towards them. What they do in their personal life shouldn’t matter as long as it doesn’t personally affect yours.… it’s so simple. Let People Enjoy Things.

Obviously, some of these are just mundane everyday examples but we carry this behavior into even bigger life issues and it affects our quality of life at work, school, relationships, marriages, etc. where any opinion expressed that is in any way different from ours is deemed stupid/silly or where if anyone shows an interest in something we don’t particularly like or enjoy, we attempt to rubbish. Piss poor!

Imagine a world where we all purposefully lived in this truth – to not try and doctor or police people’s choices about things that have no direct impact on our personal lives – however different those things are to the things we like/enjoy.

Personally speaking, this is not an easy thing for me to do because I can be so set in my opinions and truly hate anything that disrupts my normal BUT I am challenging myself going forward to let people enjoy things; whatever those things are and however far removed they are from my reality. I will……

….…. Let People Enjoy Things.

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Will you join me?

What do you promise to let people enjoy? Chime-in in the comments section below.

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PS: How have I been? I’ve been fantastic! Thank you guys for the check-ins, I appreciate them truly.

Still a beautiful baby girl :D

I’ve been trying my hands at silhouette photography and below are some of my trials that turned out so well that I think I want to stop playing and truly learn this thing for real. What you say?

This is my fave!

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Have a lovely day xx

S.


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Anniverssary, Birthday, Family, Fun, Happy,, Holiday, Marriage, May, Weddings

Let’s Play Catch Up, Shall we?

Let me tell you guys the shameful thing that just happened ~ while trying to log on here just now, I forgot my login details… TWICE! *hangs head* It’s been that long…

For the better part of March, all of April and up until yesterday, I have not had ONE day of doing nothing/rest; and I’m only just finding out[much to my disappointment] that I simply cannot do it all. I’m no superwoman, something had to give and sadly the blog was part of the collateral damage.

I’ve been swamped! Proper swamped. Still… I apologise.

Let me get y’all up to speed on the whirlwind that is sometimes my life. See, I meant to share all these as separate posts and that’s exactly why I ended up in this predicament as there was never time and it just kept piling so let me just sparsely share for now, pending when I can be more detailed.

Let’s get to it.


ONE

One of my closest [and oldest] friends was getting married and so I [together with her sister] planned and threw her a surprise bridal shower.

No big deal right? Wrong!

First off, I’ve never thrown anyone a shower before so I was the rookiest of all rookies which basically meant, tons of higi haga crinkum crankum gbish gbish gbo gba! Ha ha. But in the end, we pulled it all off, my friend was somewhat surprised [pesky colleague ratted us out].

It was a simple shower, we rented out a suite at Protea and basically had a girlie evening/slumber pyjama party.

We had booze.. of course! I also made my world famous punch!

We had cake and so much food [which I forgot to take pictures of]

We all dressed up in gloves and fascinators like some fancy sophisticated women as we danced, ate and laughed into the night

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 We spent the next day poolside, played water games, feasted on some leftovers and generally unwinded.

 It was perfect! She loved it so much, she shed a few happy tears and all was well with the world.


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 It was my friend Boki’s birthday and another friend of hers threw her a lovely house party which I was invited to. It was so much fun. I don’t know what it is *cough*old age*cough* but I find that I’d much rather be at a house party these days than out clubbing or a full on dressy-outty type shindig.

Kisses for the birthday girl

 This is definitely top 3 of my favourite photos of us Boks.

If you follow me on snapchat [which I hope you do], I bet you got more than an eyeful of what can happen when Boki and I and the usual suspects get together in one space. Mayhem! Lol.

It was a lovely evening. Happy Birthday Again Boks.


 

THREE

My only brother got traditionally married.

Mr & Mrs Ali Martin Tordue

 As we arrived our in-laws’ village, this banner greeted us at the main road….. I immediately got emotional. It was surreal…..

First Outfit

Our beautiful bride with her maidens

When she found her husband……

When they were tasked with feeding each other… symbolizing their taking care of one another.

Our beautiful bride… Gorgeous smile

My mum simply couldn’t contain herself… She danced and danced and danced and danced all day until night came and when we moved back to our Makurdi home and she was STILL dancing #TrueStory

Mummy and Me

As for me ~ Sister of the Groom ~ I don’t think I need to reiterate how seriously I took my role, by first of all ensuring that I looked the part!

You really should be following my social media pages [snapchat especially] because trust and believe that EVERY angle of this Slayage was very well documented for all to enjoy. Y’all already know I’m vain as hell. Ha ha

Wishing my brother and his new bride the very best of married life. I love you both dearly.


FOUR

Wednesday, 4th May….. It was my birthday.

If you know me, you know that I love to make a big deal of my birthdays and I start counting down to it from weeks preceding – as evidenced here and here and here from last year.

However, something bigger overtook my day this year…. My friend, who’s bridal shower I talked about up there was finally taking the traditional plunge. ON MY BIRTHDAY. What joy!

 

It was such a beautiful day.

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If I’m being totally honest, I loved that it took the pressure off me and I was so busy running around that I didn’t have time to poke pins in voodoo dolls of anyone who didn’t send me a wish. It’s usually that serious. Ha ha. However, by the time I got to settle down and catch up, the outpouring of best wishes was truly overwhelming. Thank you for every tweet, facebook post, text, call, raven post etc. I appreciate it, may God bless you all.

I couldn’t have asked for a better way to have spent my birthday.


FIVE

Friday, 6th May [My mum’s birthday]….. she did it in the eyes of God.

So beautiful

 

Per usual….. I turned up in my Sunday-best [more like Friday-best, but you get me].

I’ve never felt more beautiful in nude makeup

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My sister and I

Thickums!!!!!!

Happy married life to my dear friend Jennifer and her husband Peter. May God bless your new home.


So you see, I’ve had a rather hectic few weeks/month with all the running around and planning, so I hope you forgive me for being awol for so long. I shall do better.

It’s a promise!

If you read all the way to this point, you’re the real MVP and I thank you.

PS: Every single event mentioned in this post has been condensed to the barest but if you were following my social media pages, snapchat especially, you’d have seen that I captured everything in minute detail and I’ve been told it was enjoyable and fun to follow/watch so get on board okay. Besides, sometimes, even when i’m very quiet on here, my social media pages be popping! So do not carry last ehn?!

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Have a nice week.

Besos xx

S.


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Randomness

Elevator Conversations and Shenanigans

Yesterday my friend and I went to see a movie and then we bumped into another friend of mine Annie who was with his fiance [sporting her gorgeous rock] [ you did great picking that Annie] and they were meeting up with another couple so we all inevitably became a group [Lets call us: The Hilarious Six] seeing as endless belly laughs are guaranteed in Annie’s company… which is always a great thing.

So we are standing waiting for the elevator to come down for like 5 minutes and when it eventually comes, some people who had gotten to the elevator and met us waiting managed to karate chop us out of the way and get in, leaving us *the hilarious 6* all standing outside looking like – really? Annie looks at one of the guy and goes – “Oga even with this your suit & tie, you cannot behave?” Ha ha

BTW Nigerians, proper elevator etiquette [if that’s a thing] insists that you stand aside for people to come out before you rush to get stuffed in like a hot potato. The box isn’t going anywhere, it’s not agege bread.

Anyways, another ride eventually pulls up and at this point we are all standing guard by the door like – I dare anybody to attempt chancing us again”; we all made it in, a few others joined in and we proceeded to commence on the smelliest-sweatiest-saltiest-end of work hours elevator ride of our lives to the 4th floor. When I tell you that ride felt longer than 4 floors, believe me! But that wasn’t even the best part….

Some dude – burly, 9 month old beer belly, 2 shirt sizes too small, sweaty pits, upset and barking into his phone  –“whottayhu saying?!! I’m bigger than that please” “Don’t tell me that rubbish…”

*more gibberish but I forget*”

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL.

He was pissed! I’m just looking at him like – sure, you’re bigger :p. I tried to make up a backstory in my head of what the scenario could possibly be – perhaps it’s a girl on the other end trying to belittle him by asking for a bicycle when she could be asking for a jeep; or perhaps it’s those spectranet people that con you into buying data that you’ll hardly use only to tell you it’s finished in 10 days! Or maybe his container just landed and the clearing agent is insisting on a transfer before anything else and as you can see, it’s after bank hours [and internet banking is not for people who sweat & wear baby sized shirts]… Hmph!! All very valid reasons to be so mad in 10 seconds lol.

But, on the real – why are you shouting into your phone [that is probably right by another person’s ear] in an air tight elevator full of people? Do we not even get a choice of what type of conversations to eavesdrop on? Can’t the conversation pause? We all know network doesn’t even hold in there and so you hear alot of “Sorry? What did you say? Ehn?” *major side eye*

On making up backstories…..

Once I met this impeccably dressed Asian chic with a sleek bob haircut on an elevator and by the time we got to my floor, I had managed to convince myself that this chic was some assassin type badass, definitely there for a job [to strangle a bad guy with her pantyhose] and will exit afterwards via a Rapunzel hose hanging from the penthouse a’la Angelina Jolie in Mr & Mrs Smith.

FunFact: Did you know you wont see the number 4 in elevators in many parts of Asia? You’d most likely see 3A in it’s place because the pronunciation for the number 4 sounds like the word for death in chinese and y’all know how Asians take that feng shui shit seriously.

Another time, I rode in uncomfortable silence with a woman who wasn’t holding anything and her help [who had like 5 grocery bags] and imagined her to be like Meryl Streep in Devil Wears Prada.

By now you can see tell that i’m silly like that – making up backstories in my head for scenarios I know none’ about; all for shits & giggles. Quite the vivid imagination I have.

But really, what is it about elevators that makes people lose their shit? *cough*cough* Solange*

Why can’t people just hold it in for 10 seconds? Like for e.g do not fart when you’re alone in an elevator thinking it’s okay because you’re by yourself because I can deadass guarantee that it’ll stop on the next floor and a very beautiful girl/handsome fella will walk in and proceed to give you the screw face until you get out and the chances of bumping into that same person for the rest of the evening [or days] suddenly explodes exponentially. You can bet on it!

Like the couple I once interrupted – knowing fully well what they’d been doing before I got in;

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I stood by the girl’s right, positioned my nose waaaay too close [bye personal space] and proceeded to breathe heavily on her neck until I got off… that’ll teach her! Guilty conscience didn’t even allow her move away, lol

I know…. I’m badly behaved sometimes.

PS: Thankful for every one who’s checked in, i’m fine; just super busy helping with planning for two weddings. How exciting! I’ll gist you guys all about it soonest.

Also still on my happy trail, life is good.

PPS: Do you have an interesting elevator story? You know you wanna share…. indulge me please 😀

Besos xx

S.


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